MAKE YOUR MARRIAGE WORK FOR YOUR CHILDREN SAKE

MAKE YOUR MARRIAGE WORK FOR YOUR CHILDREN SAKE
I've seen a lot of couples who are living happily together for the first years of marriage, but for some reasons fell apart after a number of years of being together. It's so sad to think that what was once a happy relationship turned into a nightmare.
Once a relationship failed the first reason that comes into our mind is infidelity. That one or the other has a third party. That may be true, but we cannot disregard the fact that there may be a lot of other reasons. Instead of dealing with the negatives, let me share with you my thoughts on what are the essentials in a lasting relationship.
Communication and intimacy are vital in a relationship. I believe that the absence of communication or the lack of it creates discord in a relationship. Likewise, miscommunication is another major factor. It is important that we communicate what we feel, but it is even more important to learn how to communicate it. A lot of times, we feel down in the dumps for being misunderstood, but we fail to realize that it was our manner of communicating that trigger the fight. Tact must always be practiced and we should truly listen to what the other is saying to better understand what is being conveyed.
Appreciation is equally important in a relationship. Be grateful for all the good things that your partner is doing for you. Let him feel that he is very much appreciated. If your spouse feels that he is appreciated and valued, it doubles his joy and inspires him to do even greater things. Be lavish with praise and it will surely do wonders.
Support each other. When one dances, the other claps. Support his interests, hobbies, ideas. Find out his childhood dreams and help him realize that dream. Always be there for him. His boss may not see his value, his friends may turn their backs on him, but your support will make a big difference. After all, what you think and believe in is what matters most. Your support will help him cope up with everyday stress and will make him a better and happier person.
Commitment. It is the commitment to the relationship that makes the marriage last forever. There may be times when you may feel like running away from it, but remember that 'LOVE' is not a feeling. It doesn't stop when the feelings end. During moments of trials and temptations, be reminded of the vows that you made and your strong commitment to that vow will lead you back to the right track.
Pray together. Cliché' as it may sound, but it's true. The family that prays together stays together. Make God the center of your married life and you would have a stronger bond. Should problems come your way, you will be confident that you will all surpass it because you know that you have a God who is bigger than all your problems and concerns.