Raising children is the most important job in the world. Raising children is a wonderful and challenging life experience. Here's the problem: people assume that raising children is only the job of the women, men do not take child raising seriously in our culture. If raising children is so hard, why do people still want to have kids? Downgrading the importance of raising children is the greatest evil of our times. It is time to face it, raising children is the responsibility of parents. Raising children is a never-ending job. Raising children is much harder than it looks, but with patience and hope, children can mature into very emotionally-secure adults.
Child care is a partnership. Child care is a necessary part of life for many families. First-time parents explore and document the care and development of a human baby. Do you feel comfortable with someone else taking care of your child? Taking care of yourself is a vital part of keeping your child safe. No job is more important to you than taking care of your own child. I don't think that the care of children should be gender specific.
Parents play a very important role in when raising children in a safe and loving home homes. Parents recognize and deal with their children's most challenging traits in a positive manner. Parents earning low or moderate incomes are under extreme pressure to meet the costs of raising children and overall household expenses. All parents face challenges in raising children. Parents decide to accept the responsibility of raising children. Therefore, workshop models for teaching parents how to cope with the stress associated with raising children has been developed.
Good child care provides parents with an extended family to help share in the challenges and joys of raising children. Creating a stable family environment and raising children should be a joy. It recognizes the critical role that the family plays in American society and in raising children. Poor family values and poor communication skills with children is what leads children to rebel. Siblings can cause many joys and frustrations in any family. It is difficult to balance this philosophy with a family life that places value on raising children.
Raising children is not an easy task. Raising children is at heart a practice that engages and embodies a rich variety of developed and undeveloped theories. The smartest advice on raising children is to enjoy them while they are still on your side. Like all parents, they have found that raising children is both challenging and unpredictable. It seems to me that raising children is a catch-22 when it comes to finances.
Saturday, January 3, 2009
Sunday, November 16, 2008
Where to Look for the Perfect Parenting Resource
All parents need a good parenting resource of their own. Since parenting is such a tough occupation a parenting resource can help make things easier for any parent. How and where can a parent find a relevant parenting resource? There is no one sure and perfect parenting resource for everyone. A parent may have to determine for himself/herself which parenting resource is helpful and applicable. There are however specific areas where one can get a parenting resource. You can get your parenting resource from the following:
The Book and Video Haven
Any place where they sell or lend a vast selection of books and videos may be a parenting resource. You can go around looking for a bestseller parenting resource or something created by experts in the field of parenting and psychology to get a good parenting resource. Surprisingly, an experiential parenting resource account or even fictional stories of parenting may be useful parenting resource for the discriminating parent.
Comprehensive Sites and Links
Not surprisingly, the internet can have every kind of parenting resource imaginable. You have the option of checking out sites that will provide you with a comprehensive parenting resource section or one that will provide you with specific parenting resource information. You can also check link or .net sites if you want to have a brief overview of some other sites that may be good places for a parenting resource.
Message Boards and Others
You may prefer a parenting resource that’s highly practical and that comes from people who have actually experienced parenting. You can use parents’ forums and message boards as your parenting resource. In this kind of parenting resource you can swap stories and practical tips and information. A lot of parents may warm up to this kind of parenting resource because it is conversational, light and a fun way to go about talking about parenting.
Formal Classes and Support Groups
A clear and structured parenting resource may come from such formal areas as parenting courses and support groups. This type of parenting resource will surely offer highly professional pieces of information. There is no doubt that if you enroll in a parenting resource class, you will get a load of theories and actual practice accounts from trained professionals in the field of parenting. Support groups can also offer parenting resource that may be both categorized as formal expert quality and personally supportive and uplifting in nature.
People You Know
A practical parenting resource source would be people you actually know. Your own parents, family, friends and colleagues may each be a parenting resource. Ask these live, actual parenting resource people what they can share based on what they know and their experience. This may be the cheapest and best parenting resource you can ever have.
However and wherever you choose to get your parenting resource make sure that your parenting resource is applicable to you and your family. Remember, not all families are the same.
The Book and Video Haven
Any place where they sell or lend a vast selection of books and videos may be a parenting resource. You can go around looking for a bestseller parenting resource or something created by experts in the field of parenting and psychology to get a good parenting resource. Surprisingly, an experiential parenting resource account or even fictional stories of parenting may be useful parenting resource for the discriminating parent.
Comprehensive Sites and Links
Not surprisingly, the internet can have every kind of parenting resource imaginable. You have the option of checking out sites that will provide you with a comprehensive parenting resource section or one that will provide you with specific parenting resource information. You can also check link or .net sites if you want to have a brief overview of some other sites that may be good places for a parenting resource.
Message Boards and Others
You may prefer a parenting resource that’s highly practical and that comes from people who have actually experienced parenting. You can use parents’ forums and message boards as your parenting resource. In this kind of parenting resource you can swap stories and practical tips and information. A lot of parents may warm up to this kind of parenting resource because it is conversational, light and a fun way to go about talking about parenting.
Formal Classes and Support Groups
A clear and structured parenting resource may come from such formal areas as parenting courses and support groups. This type of parenting resource will surely offer highly professional pieces of information. There is no doubt that if you enroll in a parenting resource class, you will get a load of theories and actual practice accounts from trained professionals in the field of parenting. Support groups can also offer parenting resource that may be both categorized as formal expert quality and personally supportive and uplifting in nature.
People You Know
A practical parenting resource source would be people you actually know. Your own parents, family, friends and colleagues may each be a parenting resource. Ask these live, actual parenting resource people what they can share based on what they know and their experience. This may be the cheapest and best parenting resource you can ever have.
However and wherever you choose to get your parenting resource make sure that your parenting resource is applicable to you and your family. Remember, not all families are the same.
Saturday, October 25, 2008
The Advantages of Attending Parenting Classes
PARENTING CLASSES YOU NEED IT
Parenting can be the toughest job in the world, indeed it is. Even the smartest ones give up on finding the perfect equation for the perfect relationship with your kids. You know why? Because there is no such thing as perfect, there are only ideals and appropriates.
If you are a newbie in the world of parenting, it will be as twice as hard for you. Let’s be honest, all of us wants to be the best parents for our child and who wouldn’t. However, most of us are still uncertain if our so-called way of parenting is correct. If you want to learn a lot of helpful strategies to cope up with the staple challenges of parenting, then help is on the way.
Parenting classes are all the rage of today. Some even take classes even if the baby is still on its way. Parenting classes are facilitated by expert instructors that give out lessons to aid moms on the need. They give out helpful information on different aspects of parenting. If necessary, they will even require some parents to undergo structured parenting program that will teach them a step by step approach on parenting.
The only misconception about parenting classes is that some parents think that it can change their ways of raising a child. What you need to remember is that, these lessons only serve as your guide and the implementation of such all depends upon you. But when the time comes that a real change is required in your usual parenting technique, your instincts will tell you so and you will know it.
If you think that only problematic parents take parenting lessons, you are absolutely wrong. What you don’t know is that even healthy families tend to scout for help if they need it. If you’re one amongst the big majority who want to attend but just don’t have the time to attend parenting classes, you are just in luck because parenting classes are well established on the web. You can just easily take online courses in the comforts of your own home. How’s that for a class?
Parenting is truly the hardest job one could ever have and to note all of these are a lifetime commitment. Parenting classes are mere supplementation for those who wants to seek help from experts. There is no right or wrong way in parenting, however there will always be what we call as the acceptable way.
Parenting can be the toughest job in the world, indeed it is. Even the smartest ones give up on finding the perfect equation for the perfect relationship with your kids. You know why? Because there is no such thing as perfect, there are only ideals and appropriates.
If you are a newbie in the world of parenting, it will be as twice as hard for you. Let’s be honest, all of us wants to be the best parents for our child and who wouldn’t. However, most of us are still uncertain if our so-called way of parenting is correct. If you want to learn a lot of helpful strategies to cope up with the staple challenges of parenting, then help is on the way.
Parenting classes are all the rage of today. Some even take classes even if the baby is still on its way. Parenting classes are facilitated by expert instructors that give out lessons to aid moms on the need. They give out helpful information on different aspects of parenting. If necessary, they will even require some parents to undergo structured parenting program that will teach them a step by step approach on parenting.
The only misconception about parenting classes is that some parents think that it can change their ways of raising a child. What you need to remember is that, these lessons only serve as your guide and the implementation of such all depends upon you. But when the time comes that a real change is required in your usual parenting technique, your instincts will tell you so and you will know it.
If you think that only problematic parents take parenting lessons, you are absolutely wrong. What you don’t know is that even healthy families tend to scout for help if they need it. If you’re one amongst the big majority who want to attend but just don’t have the time to attend parenting classes, you are just in luck because parenting classes are well established on the web. You can just easily take online courses in the comforts of your own home. How’s that for a class?
Parenting is truly the hardest job one could ever have and to note all of these are a lifetime commitment. Parenting classes are mere supplementation for those who wants to seek help from experts. There is no right or wrong way in parenting, however there will always be what we call as the acceptable way.
Thursday, October 23, 2008
Inspired Parent Before Conception, Pregnancy, Birth and Baby
Inspired Parenting
There are a few different elements involved in inspired parenting which will I will address in a series of articles.
One of the basics of inspired parenting is the whole idea of co-parenting with the Universe, God, Angels or whatever word/image fits for you. Inspired parenting invites in the support of the universe so you don't have to do it alone.
When you believe you have complete and sole responsibility and have to do it alone, parenting can feel overwhelming (even before conception or during pregnancy!).
When you realize that you are being loved and supported as you parent or prepare for pregnancy the whole experience becomes so much easier and joyful for all concerned (including baby).
Inspired Parenting in Pregnancy or Before
As you actually invite the universe to help you in your different tasks, you are opening the door to great joy and fulfillment in pregnancy and family life.
So every day you can ask that the universe to help you prepare for your baby, to keep your baby safe and to support his/her healthy development. You can ask that it easy for you to feel good, have energy and enjoy the pregnancy.
You can visualise all the support you need during pregnancy and when baby arrives. And any worries you have can be handed over to the angels so that they can sort it out.
In inspired parenting there is trust that all is well, that your baby is safe, that you are protected and cared for and that you can have fun.
There are a few different elements involved in inspired parenting which will I will address in a series of articles.
One of the basics of inspired parenting is the whole idea of co-parenting with the Universe, God, Angels or whatever word/image fits for you. Inspired parenting invites in the support of the universe so you don't have to do it alone.
When you believe you have complete and sole responsibility and have to do it alone, parenting can feel overwhelming (even before conception or during pregnancy!).
When you realize that you are being loved and supported as you parent or prepare for pregnancy the whole experience becomes so much easier and joyful for all concerned (including baby).
Inspired Parenting in Pregnancy or Before
As you actually invite the universe to help you in your different tasks, you are opening the door to great joy and fulfillment in pregnancy and family life.
So every day you can ask that the universe to help you prepare for your baby, to keep your baby safe and to support his/her healthy development. You can ask that it easy for you to feel good, have energy and enjoy the pregnancy.
You can visualise all the support you need during pregnancy and when baby arrives. And any worries you have can be handed over to the angels so that they can sort it out.
In inspired parenting there is trust that all is well, that your baby is safe, that you are protected and cared for and that you can have fun.
ARE YOU THE BEST PARENT
Parent as Leader. Parent Leadership. What does it really mean? Do you think that as a parent you are also a leader and if so, how do you go about that?
I have always found the words Parent and Parenting to be very emotive. For me, they bring up a feeling of exhaustion, frustration and a feeling of being stuck. I'm not sure if this is only me but I have never found these words at all inspiring. Let's face it, bringing a child into the word and caring for them, ensuring that they grow up to be a fine young adult is so much more than about parenting. I remember saying to someone ages ago that I am not a parent; I am a relationship builder and that felt much more freeing for me. I then went on to replace this with the word Leader; I am a leader for my child. To me that feels more like a task to take, a result to achieve, an inspiring outcome to work towards.
Our radio show last week was all about this topic and it really got me thinking of the similarities between parent coaching and corporate coaching. You see, they are not much different. In executive coaching a person comes to a coach to grow and improve their leadership style, perhaps they need to step into a leadership role they feel uncomfortable in, or perhaps they need to make uncomfortable decisions as a leader. Well, parent coaching is the same thing; without knowing it, clients come to me because an area in their parent leadership needs developing. There is a place as a parent that they need to step into and they know it. Despite how ever many books you read, you will not find the answer to this. You see, most of the parenting books tell you what you need to do and not who you need to become to do it. That, I guess, is where my book differs and is why parents who read it feel relief, because they realise that actually, to change things at home they just need to make little adjustments. When we see ourselves as a leader we can see hope where before we saw, well let's just say, our child not doing anything we say. When we see ourselves as a leader we make different choices. Like Benjamin Zander askes, "What am I doing that is not allowing this person to shine?" It puts everything in a different perspective.
A Parent Leader thinks differently and asks different questions of themselves and their child For example, instead of asking, "Why will my child not do anything I ask?" they will ask, "What do I need to do to teach my child responsibility?" Instead of, "What is wrong with my child and how can I fix this?" they will ask, "What do I need to change about my style to support my child in this result? Instead of "Why does my child always speak to me in this way?" they ask, "What am I doing that is allowing another person to treat me like this?" Instead of. "I don't think my child could handle that!" they ask, "If I believe my child could handle this, would I behave differently?"
As you can see, it is entirely a different mindset and as I am sure you can imagine, it produces different results than merely parenting, whatever that is anyway.
So how can you access your leadership and what is required of a good parent leader?
For this I want to turn to the great book, The Four Fold Way, which draws on ancient wisdom and I believe can show us the way forward. In ancient wisdom it was believed that to raise a well adjusted child, four types of leadership were required; the way of the Warrior, Teacher, Visionary and Healer. Now in ancient and past times, children would have gone to different people for these things and certainly within tribes, people would have been given these designated jobs. Think of your own childhood, who was the person you went to when you needed someone to be strong. What about when you needed to heal some pain or have someone gets excited about your future plans? Anyway, you see where I am going. Now in modern day society, this does not happen. Children don't have these different people to go to so as the Parent, we need to search inside ourselves and learn to become all of them when our child needs us to.
I have always found the words Parent and Parenting to be very emotive. For me, they bring up a feeling of exhaustion, frustration and a feeling of being stuck. I'm not sure if this is only me but I have never found these words at all inspiring. Let's face it, bringing a child into the word and caring for them, ensuring that they grow up to be a fine young adult is so much more than about parenting. I remember saying to someone ages ago that I am not a parent; I am a relationship builder and that felt much more freeing for me. I then went on to replace this with the word Leader; I am a leader for my child. To me that feels more like a task to take, a result to achieve, an inspiring outcome to work towards.
Our radio show last week was all about this topic and it really got me thinking of the similarities between parent coaching and corporate coaching. You see, they are not much different. In executive coaching a person comes to a coach to grow and improve their leadership style, perhaps they need to step into a leadership role they feel uncomfortable in, or perhaps they need to make uncomfortable decisions as a leader. Well, parent coaching is the same thing; without knowing it, clients come to me because an area in their parent leadership needs developing. There is a place as a parent that they need to step into and they know it. Despite how ever many books you read, you will not find the answer to this. You see, most of the parenting books tell you what you need to do and not who you need to become to do it. That, I guess, is where my book differs and is why parents who read it feel relief, because they realise that actually, to change things at home they just need to make little adjustments. When we see ourselves as a leader we can see hope where before we saw, well let's just say, our child not doing anything we say. When we see ourselves as a leader we make different choices. Like Benjamin Zander askes, "What am I doing that is not allowing this person to shine?" It puts everything in a different perspective.
A Parent Leader thinks differently and asks different questions of themselves and their child For example, instead of asking, "Why will my child not do anything I ask?" they will ask, "What do I need to do to teach my child responsibility?" Instead of, "What is wrong with my child and how can I fix this?" they will ask, "What do I need to change about my style to support my child in this result? Instead of "Why does my child always speak to me in this way?" they ask, "What am I doing that is allowing another person to treat me like this?" Instead of. "I don't think my child could handle that!" they ask, "If I believe my child could handle this, would I behave differently?"
As you can see, it is entirely a different mindset and as I am sure you can imagine, it produces different results than merely parenting, whatever that is anyway.
So how can you access your leadership and what is required of a good parent leader?
For this I want to turn to the great book, The Four Fold Way, which draws on ancient wisdom and I believe can show us the way forward. In ancient wisdom it was believed that to raise a well adjusted child, four types of leadership were required; the way of the Warrior, Teacher, Visionary and Healer. Now in ancient and past times, children would have gone to different people for these things and certainly within tribes, people would have been given these designated jobs. Think of your own childhood, who was the person you went to when you needed someone to be strong. What about when you needed to heal some pain or have someone gets excited about your future plans? Anyway, you see where I am going. Now in modern day society, this does not happen. Children don't have these different people to go to so as the Parent, we need to search inside ourselves and learn to become all of them when our child needs us to.
Friday, August 29, 2008
TIPS TO STOP BED WETTING
TIPS TO STOP BED WETTING
O STOP BEDBedwetting is quite normal when it is among the infants. It turns out to be a problem when the parents find it at the time of their school going stage or sometimes beyond that. Bedwetting is an involuntary urination during one's sleep which develops frustration among the parents and embarrassment among the children.
Bedwetting is quite a delicate subject to deal with as any punishment or restriction like teasing, scolding etc. gives our negative result. Correct way has to be adopted by the parents in order to overcome this problem. Rather than making child feel bad about this problem of bedwetting, parents have to try and assure child that this could be easily overcome.
Below are some tips that could help the child have night without wetting.
1. A very normal idea to avoid bedwetting is to take the child to toilet before they go to bed. This should be a regular routine so that they go to bed with their bladder empty. It should also be taken care that the child has easy access to toilet in case they need to urinate waking up at night.
2. Another tip is to avoid plenty of fluid intakes at night so that they have lesser tendency to urinate during night that can prevent bedwetting. Parents can stop feeding them with fluids at least two hours before they go to bed.
3. Always use a plastic or rubber sheet that could protect your bed from getting wet by urine and smelling due to bedwetting. This will make it easy in changing bed and child will also not feel much disturbed with wet sheets.
4. Building confidence in a child who wets the bed is more important than treating him otherwise. The feeling of self-belief will help a child overcome bedwetting to a large extend.
5. Praise from the parents when the child does not wet is also as important as how parents try to overcome it. This will make the child understand that the positive side of it is not to wet and be dry till he or she wakes up in the morning.
O STOP BEDBedwetting is quite normal when it is among the infants. It turns out to be a problem when the parents find it at the time of their school going stage or sometimes beyond that. Bedwetting is an involuntary urination during one's sleep which develops frustration among the parents and embarrassment among the children.
Bedwetting is quite a delicate subject to deal with as any punishment or restriction like teasing, scolding etc. gives our negative result. Correct way has to be adopted by the parents in order to overcome this problem. Rather than making child feel bad about this problem of bedwetting, parents have to try and assure child that this could be easily overcome.
Below are some tips that could help the child have night without wetting.
1. A very normal idea to avoid bedwetting is to take the child to toilet before they go to bed. This should be a regular routine so that they go to bed with their bladder empty. It should also be taken care that the child has easy access to toilet in case they need to urinate waking up at night.
2. Another tip is to avoid plenty of fluid intakes at night so that they have lesser tendency to urinate during night that can prevent bedwetting. Parents can stop feeding them with fluids at least two hours before they go to bed.
3. Always use a plastic or rubber sheet that could protect your bed from getting wet by urine and smelling due to bedwetting. This will make it easy in changing bed and child will also not feel much disturbed with wet sheets.
4. Building confidence in a child who wets the bed is more important than treating him otherwise. The feeling of self-belief will help a child overcome bedwetting to a large extend.
5. Praise from the parents when the child does not wet is also as important as how parents try to overcome it. This will make the child understand that the positive side of it is not to wet and be dry till he or she wakes up in the morning.
Tuesday, August 26, 2008
MAKE YOUR MARRIAGE WORK FOR YOUR CHILDREN SAKE
MAKE YOUR MARRIAGE WORK FOR YOUR CHILDREN SAKE
I've seen a lot of couples who are living happily together for the first years of marriage, but for some reasons fell apart after a number of years of being together. It's so sad to think that what was once a happy relationship turned into a nightmare.
Once a relationship failed the first reason that comes into our mind is infidelity. That one or the other has a third party. That may be true, but we cannot disregard the fact that there may be a lot of other reasons. Instead of dealing with the negatives, let me share with you my thoughts on what are the essentials in a lasting relationship.
Communication and intimacy are vital in a relationship. I believe that the absence of communication or the lack of it creates discord in a relationship. Likewise, miscommunication is another major factor. It is important that we communicate what we feel, but it is even more important to learn how to communicate it. A lot of times, we feel down in the dumps for being misunderstood, but we fail to realize that it was our manner of communicating that trigger the fight. Tact must always be practiced and we should truly listen to what the other is saying to better understand what is being conveyed.
Appreciation is equally important in a relationship. Be grateful for all the good things that your partner is doing for you. Let him feel that he is very much appreciated. If your spouse feels that he is appreciated and valued, it doubles his joy and inspires him to do even greater things. Be lavish with praise and it will surely do wonders.
Support each other. When one dances, the other claps. Support his interests, hobbies, ideas. Find out his childhood dreams and help him realize that dream. Always be there for him. His boss may not see his value, his friends may turn their backs on him, but your support will make a big difference. After all, what you think and believe in is what matters most. Your support will help him cope up with everyday stress and will make him a better and happier person.
Commitment. It is the commitment to the relationship that makes the marriage last forever. There may be times when you may feel like running away from it, but remember that 'LOVE' is not a feeling. It doesn't stop when the feelings end. During moments of trials and temptations, be reminded of the vows that you made and your strong commitment to that vow will lead you back to the right track.
Pray together. Cliché' as it may sound, but it's true. The family that prays together stays together. Make God the center of your married life and you would have a stronger bond. Should problems come your way, you will be confident that you will all surpass it because you know that you have a God who is bigger than all your problems and concerns.
I've seen a lot of couples who are living happily together for the first years of marriage, but for some reasons fell apart after a number of years of being together. It's so sad to think that what was once a happy relationship turned into a nightmare.
Once a relationship failed the first reason that comes into our mind is infidelity. That one or the other has a third party. That may be true, but we cannot disregard the fact that there may be a lot of other reasons. Instead of dealing with the negatives, let me share with you my thoughts on what are the essentials in a lasting relationship.
Communication and intimacy are vital in a relationship. I believe that the absence of communication or the lack of it creates discord in a relationship. Likewise, miscommunication is another major factor. It is important that we communicate what we feel, but it is even more important to learn how to communicate it. A lot of times, we feel down in the dumps for being misunderstood, but we fail to realize that it was our manner of communicating that trigger the fight. Tact must always be practiced and we should truly listen to what the other is saying to better understand what is being conveyed.
Appreciation is equally important in a relationship. Be grateful for all the good things that your partner is doing for you. Let him feel that he is very much appreciated. If your spouse feels that he is appreciated and valued, it doubles his joy and inspires him to do even greater things. Be lavish with praise and it will surely do wonders.
Support each other. When one dances, the other claps. Support his interests, hobbies, ideas. Find out his childhood dreams and help him realize that dream. Always be there for him. His boss may not see his value, his friends may turn their backs on him, but your support will make a big difference. After all, what you think and believe in is what matters most. Your support will help him cope up with everyday stress and will make him a better and happier person.
Commitment. It is the commitment to the relationship that makes the marriage last forever. There may be times when you may feel like running away from it, but remember that 'LOVE' is not a feeling. It doesn't stop when the feelings end. During moments of trials and temptations, be reminded of the vows that you made and your strong commitment to that vow will lead you back to the right track.
Pray together. Cliché' as it may sound, but it's true. The family that prays together stays together. Make God the center of your married life and you would have a stronger bond. Should problems come your way, you will be confident that you will all surpass it because you know that you have a God who is bigger than all your problems and concerns.
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